When life hospitalised Me- I became a patient

So many times I’ve had to teach myself to be patient, to be a patient. All this time that I’ve never realised that I’ve institutionalised myself in the hospital of urgency and improper (medication). I diagnosed myself, checked on myself, and even wrote prescriptions for myself. I was the full-blown modern man who learned the skill of multitasking and of doing things by myself.

One thing I never realised is that I don’t have to multi-task, I don’t have to do this alone. All I need is to find the right people to hospitalize myself into and get high with them. I had stretch

1. Find (friends) that can diagnose me, even from just hearing my voice they can tell that I’m not having the greatest of days.
2. Get advice from those people, milk them to the nucleus of their brains, understand why certain prescriptions can’t work for you and why they work for them.
3. Be a patient, learn to listen to my doctors (friends), slow down on “but I read this on…” notion. Talk less and absorb more and understand your prescriptions.
4. Be in constant touch with these people who my health (life/success) needs, go back for check ups, go see what new medication you need to upgrade yourself to.

You can be killed by your own belief

I think we are naive as people to believe in something or someone we not willing to invest ourselves in. We humans want to live Lavish lives of little worry and great comfort to our financial security but are not willing to invest ourselves in the one thing that matters the most-” Belief”.

I don’t care who you are and what you are. To achieve anything in this life you have to have some form of belief in the things you chasing. You can’t wake up every day of your life with the notion of doing things just for the hell of doing them. First, you need to have purpose. Second, you need faith in the decisions you making with that purpose. This requires understanding the value of belief and making concrete decisions based on the level of your faith.

In my mere existence I’ve come to realize there’s nothing more dangerous in life than belief. I’ve seen great men fall in front of my eyes based on the idea of living life without any form of belief. Look at the news these days, front line headlines of vulnerable beings chasing belief, the extensions of doom and petrol and eating rats and snakes just to believe in something or someone.

We are being misled by the unique school of thoughts that we either grew up in or adopted along the way. We need to reshuffle our thoughts and figure out what our faith and what belief systems we going to follow as not just beings of the modern society but beings of Africa. You were made for more, made to become something bigger than what you are right now.

5 Important lessons of Life

  • Never ever, ever compare myself to others.

I know I’ve heard and read this before. It is not always difficult to be aware of your potential and your role in this life when you compare yourself to others. I never knew this man existed until I moved myself from the thoughts of what others thought of me. When this happened the foundation of my decisions shifted from the references of what they thought I was capable of to what I thought I was capable of. It’s about understanding who you are and the value you put on your life. I am Mahume and no else! I compete with the knowledge of the world to what it means to me not what it means to the next person.  I find joy in knowing my potential and stretching the norms that were laid before me.

  • Try, just Try

Sometimes the biggest challenge with this is that I often try too hard and yet I still believe it’s better than not doing anything at all. I have lived with the notion that one cannot know their true strength until it is tested, and it is in trying that I understand my will and purpose. The only way to allow this to happen is to be bold and brave and challenge myself to be bigger and to create a life worth remembering.

  • Fear Not but only the God in You

Fear is not the illusion of false things appearing real, Fear is real. Fear is also the absence of God (This I learned).  I learned that fear exist when we test new waters, when we travel the unknown and when we move the equator that comforts our being. I learned the only way to overcome fear is to understand the God that lives in me and nothing else. I believe that everything was created by one sole energy that we all interacts and connects with through the different energies and it is knowing this that make me value fear because without the existence of fear I would not know the different radiance of God.

  • Learn how to Love

This goes hand in hand with overcoming fear. One must never fear to love, one must learn how to love, for it is in understanding what love is that we find purpose in the things we do. I truly believe that we live for love and love is one thing that all humans are slave to. Yet we fear to love, we fear to experience love; Love is God, letting God in that we overcome fear.

  • Have patience

Probably the hardest lesson I have had to fully comprehend. I want things now, especially when life is hitting the fan I want things to go my way now. But with Life I’ve learned that until you have learned what you need to learn you’d probably go through the same thing over and over again. The irony is that patience is a tedious process of doing something and anticipating the outcome. I have come to learn it’s what you do with your patience that matters not just being patient.

Do you manage?

I had a telephonic conversation with my friend about the reason why teams under perform or why most mangers are often not liked by the team/s they manage. After the priceless half and hour conversation I reflected back on the conversation and tried to understand the content of what was shared.Before anything else we are all humans and the ability to connect with other humans automatically shouldn’t qualify one as a good manger he said.

Secondly, companies think that by giving you opportunities to grow and learn for some odd reason they think they own you and that you owe them. And this is why you often find dissatisfied employees stuck at places where they feel that their role and jurisdictions are too pivotal to let go off, leading to the employees putting their needs second over the employer’s needs. This of course leads to frustrated employees he said, and even though they might see value of what they do, they do not value selling their souls in exchange of recognition.

Just like most conversations I’ve shared with him, we often make references to politics to make sense of everything we talking about. The drop of votes for the ANC in the recent local elections is one reference. He says to me that had the ANC be apologetic and not been arrogant in their campaigning messages they wouldn’t have performed much better than they have. He adds that poor leadership and management is one detrimental factor to mangers leading and managing their teams properly even more so this style of management disallows the team the opportunity to perform to their fullest potential- true managers manage by example.

Understand your team’s potential, understand each member’s limitations and understand what role each player plays. By the time he said this I was trying to figure what my role was and what it meant to the team. See its futile to be in a team where you are a good player but you’re not a good enough player in a team. 

Most managers I know are afraid, they afraid of change, they are afraid of failure and what often what they do is that they bestow this fear onto their teams and them ride out the mirage. I’ve seen teams fail because of unrealistic expectations founded by the mis-education and understanding of one’s team. Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with motivating your team to become great in all what they do encouraging them to be at their best and mostly to give meaning to their best but its another reason to mislead a team into believing

I pray that if I ever get to be a top management position, I pray that I do not disconnect with my team as people never mind as employees, we are humans first before we are employees and I think companies have forgotten that.

Also read: Corporate Slavery

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Mastered the art of slavery…


She said she has mastered the art of slavery/she could only be compared to a summer rain that came down heavily/she lived her life locked up eternally/and presumed to live life of integrity/what i saw in her was a woman of…some saw a high degree of insanity/who refused to accept her state of reality/but knocking on bins was more of a formality/only GOD knew has fate you see/and who was I to judge she/even in a society that allowed the degradation of humanity/she carried one at her back and the other on her sleeve/and all definition defined her as “mommy”…in her state of puberty/….


“….I hardly slept…trying to re-write herself…I felt the agony of failure once again in the vessels beneath my chest…her breast were touching her feet of all the babies she had….so the world sucked her whiteness and left her with black…”

She drew creativity in these reamed of familiar captions/wounded soul dressed by her past-fashion/reality stood monotonous,expired lessons/life still the teacher, faith her principle/the uniform of in-justice,rapes her beauty/hate is now the child, faith now the umbilical cord-removed away/”Mastering” the Art of Slavery-till today…


Short little something something for all the woman…who work their ass out…for life to trow sh*t right back at them…for all the mothers who silently cry…and whom my depiction pictures everyday…I shall do as i can to see another picture …that bring peace to the inner man….

 

–I am Mahume–©



Life is a reflection…

People are mirrors for one another. When we see something in another person and react to it emotionally, what we see in that person is a reflection of what we know exists within ourselves.

He also states that if we observe something in another without an emotional reaction, then that is just an observation. The first time I learned this, I was defensive for I felt all my criticisms of others were justified.

I then began to dig deep and realised that there is a lot of truth to the idea that people are mirrors for one another. When we react to hate in another, it is a reflection of the hate that lives within us.

When we judge someone for being full of it, then that is a reflection of the idea that maybe we know we are full of arrogance too. However, if you see beauty in another, it is a reflection of your beauty too. 

See someone as graceful and that means there is an element of grace within you. Sounds simple but this one lesson is very powerful in personal growth.

life is a reflection, imperfections of ourselves wrapped in mirrors defining who we are. Yet with all that, we seek to find the reflections in others to console and calms the demons in us.

My Big Brothers…

Karabo Kulca Masenyadiloana

Mr #Dreameneur you did say that one day you will be a CEO of  something big,never in my wildest dream that I imagine you being the CEO of Touch mobile, the first black owned and locally manufactured mobile smart phone (Correct me if I’m wrong). I remember my first interaction with you was regarding the Sony township experience you wanted to pull off. I thought here is a young man whom before our acquaintance had only subliminally met in the train, had so much vision for his life.

It is crazy how life works, your ignorance to everything else and dedication to the #DreameneurFoundation is something worth noting.

Your passion inspires me, your ideas and vision for the type of life you always wanted liberates my cocoon  and drives me to become more. Don’t think I’m sucking up now (LOL) it would be wrong not to put you on this list based on who you are and what you’re doing.

 

Jay Stash

Jesus Jay, where do I begin with you? The truth is I truly don’t even know you that well. You and I have only officially met through social media  and through that I’ve been able to read and understand your struggles and lessons (thank you for sharing)

Sometimes I read your statuses and have this nostalgic memory of when you first entered the entertainment industry. You are a different man now that’s for sure, seems to be more family orientated and business focused than ever before. There’s so many lessons to learn from you groot-man. Poi-Poi is becoming a nation, your vision of making this a household name is upon you.

You have your own brand that speaks to your heart, something you’ve worked so hard on. I pray that God give you the strength to make this a household name… You still need to email me regarding featuring on your album.

 

Your ability to give when you don’t have much to give is purely impeccable, I truly think you can start a social media blog.

Patwell Canham

I’m glad you have been able to stick out the idea of moving to cape town to chase your dream. Not of all of us can be that brave and naive. The fact that you’ve always stuck to your guns is quiet something, especially even when it didn’t make sense to anyone.

Time is everything-we definitely didn’t learn this from my oldest friend Hogg. I mean Ice is never punctual, always arriving late at parties,  meetings , work and probably late for his own birthday. LOL.

Continue reading “My Big Brothers…”

Join us for TEA

The Township Entrepreneurs Alliance (TEA) was developed out of a need to develop and grow township entrepreneurs so that they have long-lasting and profitable businesses that will create employment.

 

TEA Info

According to the founder of TEA, Bulelani Balabala, Township Entrepreneurs’ Alliance is a platform for entrepreneur’s in and around Tembisa to come together and develop each other.

Other speakers include Raizcorp’s chief executive officer, Allon Raiz, who will be giving an incubation package worth R300 000 and training that happens quarterly in sales, finance and production.

Church girls are easy

Among other topics, I had an interesting conversation with one of my oldest friend this past weekend about why and how easy it is to find a woman in church.

Look at the divorce rate in South Africa, better yet look at the relationships of some of the people you know and the struggles they have and how most of them cant maintain nor sustain their relationships. The ideology and notion of what a church is supposed to stand for has changed dramatically, thus you find most guys refusing to entertain the idea of even going to church.

Don’t get me wrong, the existence of church is still valid but lets be honest we are beings that get easily and vulnerably distracted more so in place such as a church.

Why I think church girls are easy?

Even thou the notion of church isn’t what it used to be, the mere idea of dating a church going guy has a nice ring to it.

Imagine introducing your man to your friends and stating that you met at church, according to my friend this is one of the reasons why church girls are easy because they are afraid of the judgement they will get from their friends and family if the boyfriend is not a church going man. if you look at the rate of couples who go to church together, to couples that do not go to church or go to different church you will see that the couples that go to church together tend to have long-lasting relations in comparison to the other couples.

“I found Mines in church, where did you find yours?”

There is also this perception that church going men are well disciplined and they have some understanding about their future, and according to my friend this is one of the things that make them attractable and increases their chances of dating.

“What oftentimes draws the good church girl to the bad boy is the bad in the good church girl, which the Bible calls the flesh.” ―Daniel Whyte

Another reason why church girls are easy my friend says. Just like guys women want to experience things and when they are with their friends they talk and they want to be the one telling stories about how good or bad their boyfriend is. The pressure from their friends is too much to deal with according to my friend. And church girls are the most naughtiest and sexually frustrated individuals you will ever meet and this makes them easy targets.

 

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